Step away from direct stimulation that’ll bring you to orgasm (you can come back to that later) and explore other erogenous zones. If you feel like you want to draw out your sexual encounters but get too worked up too fast, take a bit more time to breathe together and wind down when you feel close and build back up again. (Think of it as sexy, kinky data-gathering). This one isn’t so much a position as just a general pro-tip: Try out edging to get a better understanding of how your orgasms come and go. This is optimal for communication (eyes, mouths, micro-expressions are all easy to spot), so its great for keeping track of where you both are feeling and what moves will help you sustain the lasting experience you’re craving. Sit aboard your penetrating partner’s lap, wrap your legs around them and ride. LotusĪnother cuddly option, the lotus position lets the receiving partner be on top and guide the depth and intensity of penetration of a penis or toy. You can opt to use your hands however you want to get some clitoral action and can really easily back it up if you’re worried about going over the edge too soon. Simply have the penetrating partner enter the receiving partner from behind and move at your own sleepy rhythm. Without anyone being up on their feet or all fours, its harder to over-do it on stimulation too fast. SpooningĪ lazy favorite, spooning allows you to really just grind it out at your own pace. The extra control you have can help if anyone gets too close too fast. Together you can each control the depth of penetration and get some solid cervical and G-spot stimulation. Receiving partner, raise your legs up over their shoulders (or hooked over an arm - stick with the level of comfort that works with your flexibility). ButterflyĪ modified take on missionary, the receiving partner lays back on the bed (or whatever surface y’all are working with) and the penetrating partner enters while still standing or kneeling. Good sex isn’t always a sprint, sometimes it’s a marathon.
Perfect for lazy mornings, late nights and everything in between, check out the sex positions that’ll help you last longer in bed. Okay, now that that's all been covered, here are the best 15 anal sex positions to try when you're ready.Whether your partner has some trouble staying hard or you find that you each reach your peak a bit faster than you’d like, you want to consider positions that let you ride and grind it out for as long as you’d like. "There’s no shame in taking it back out and coming out of the whole situation until you’re a little bit more comfortable,” Encarnacion says.
Remember: Lube is your absolute best friend (do NOT pass go without it) and never switch from butt to vag (because bacteria, people!).īut most importantly, don't forget to check in with yourself and your body during penetration. Start with the rim of the butthole before going all the way in with a penis, strap-on, or dildo. Play around with fingers first working your way up from small to big. “Go slow and go small,” says Joanna Encarnacion, a sex and relationship coach. With the right positions and a few helpful pointers, you could be one of them.īut if it's your first time, there’s a few things you want to keep in mind. Another major perk? Some women even experience full-on anal orgasms.
Anal sex provides a different kind of fullness and can be really, truly intimate (especially if it's a first for both of you). "I've come across plenty of women who love anal play," says Gigi Engle, sex coach and sexologist (she's legit a sexpert for the Womanizer sex toy brand). And by that, I mean GREAT news, because women can actually enjoy butt play just as much as men do. Good news: Anal sex is becoming less and less taboo.